Friendship dating and courtship holiness dating
But they are still reaping what they sowed, often in a later generation who bear the fruit of their careless immoral ways.
Parental foolishness starts early on in the pre-teens, where crushes are condoned, and the habit of living in fantasies is established.
To the all too common gibe, "You don't trust me," the only possible answer is - "True!
I wouldn't trust myself either in those circumstances." If I wouldn't allow myself to be alone in a car with a woman other than my wife, why should I trust my teenagers?
Sexual desires are not designed to be started and stopped over and over again!
Finally, it is naive to think that it is all a matter of self-control. Self-control means refraining from sexual touch of any kind, at least until covenantal engagement.
Dating is part of the lie of the enemy that is ensnaring our young people.
The Bible tells us that all that has to do with love can and must be tested.
If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
Only marriage relinquishes ownership of one's "good" body to one's partner.
Parents must overcome this naivety when a teen complains about parental restrictions.
Our attitude to dating is not so much a matter of church policy but a matter of family government.
Laying a solid foundation in this area is a parental reponsibility, but the church has a responsibility to hold the family accountable to the Word of God.