Dating someone who just came out of the closet

She made it clear she wants to keep seeing me but does not want me to post pictures on social media, do any PDAs, or otherwise make it clear in public that we are a couple.I asked if this was for a while or for forever and she said she didn’t know for sure.Kids (and adults) who are considering coming out may have a hard time understanding and coping with these reactions. They often say things that are anti-gay or homophobic.So, as you can see, the decision to come out is rarely easy and must be approached with caution. Have you overheard such remarks — perhaps in reference to someone else?There is no shame in walking away from this with your head high.You do not need to go back in the closet for this girl.Your friends may give you pushback or tell you that you deserve better because they’re “just looking out for your best interests.”But you like her! The best way to make this sort of relationship work is to understand is this probably has nothing at all to do with you, and not take it personally when her boundaries mean you can’t do something you’ve done in other relationships.If you can date a woman without Instagramming selfies of your whole evening, or holding hands at the dinner table this can work.

She may be a late-in-life lesbian just like Jay-Z’s mom, and this may all be very new to her.This might mean faster than her current creep, but slower than you’d like.You could be the supportive rockstar girlfriend that helps her work through the last of that internalized homophobia and come fully out.I told her I needed to think about it, I really like this girl but can I change her mind on this?I came out 12 years ago and it was a struggle at times but I know I am stronger for being a lesbian and I wish my new girl could feel it too. Dating someone who is not willing to be visibly lesbian puts you back in the closet a little bit.

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